One of the first practices offered to laypeople in Buddhist culture is the practice of generosity.
Monastics give up everything except for a few robes and bags and a begging bowl. From the time of the
Buddha, the monastics were wholly dependent on the generosity of laypeople. It hearkens back to
ancient India and the interdependence on the spiritual monastic path and the path of laypeople.
Generosity keeps access to teachings and the mendicant life alive. Many churches and organization rely
on the generosity of their members in a similar way.
This practice of generosity extends far beyond offering donations. Gifts of time and presence are part of
it as well. However, one surprising result is that practicing generosity changes a person’s view of one
another.
The generosity that I am referring to here is the generosity of spirit. We are constantly comparing and
contrasting ourselves to others, whether that is a physical comparison, economic, or any other quality
you might imagine. This comparison is the opposite of generosity. Generosity, then, is a practice of
allowing people to be who they are as they are, not in relation to us. Just as we extend our wealth or
time to people or causes we wish to see continue, we can extend our allowing of people to be
themselves. If you have been the recipient of this wide-open acceptance before, you know that it really
is a gift. Our whole being seems to relax and just be.
Recently, it seems like people need to justify their existence to one another because they look or
identify in a particular way. This speaks to the poverty and tightness many of us have in our views. I
struggle in myself to feel generosity towards speech and ideology that is harmful and exclusionary.
Generosity comes about when I can hold a person’s need to be affirmed and supported, while at the
same time rejecting the idea that the only way to have those needs met is to put others down.
Maintaining generosity of one another is not the same as believing or supporting their views, but to
recognize that there are some deep needs being met by those views; needs such as protection, self-
worth, or inclusion (in a group).
Unfortunately, many of us are taught to believe in a view of scarcity and led to believe that we must
defend our beliefs so that others will not take them from us. If people are different, we demand that
they justify themselves to us. I say “we” because I’m sure any of us can imagine situations where we
have a scarcity mindset around something or someone.
Generosity becomes a radical practice when we assume good intentions and look deeply beyond the
surface views and into what tender need is being addressed. Generosity of our material goods builds
this practice of openness and generosity of spirit in our lives. This kind of generosity invests in the
greatest resource we have: one another.
Greg Grallo is an ordained Dharma Teacher in the Plum Village Community of Engaged Buddhism. He is a
member of Open Way Sangha and serves as a chaplain at St Patrick Hospital and the Unitarian
Universalist Fellowship of Missoula. He is the owner of Foundational Dialogues Mediation and
Facilitation LLC and can be reached at https://www.openway.org/ or foundationadialogues@gmail.com